I'D LIKE TO ROLL UP IN A BALL OF YOU
[Be warned that this particular entry is going to lean a little heavily on the schmaltz, which I usually have an aversion to when it comes to writing. I can't really stomach overly sentimental, flowery writing where everything is lovely and magical, although things can undoubtedly be lovely, sure. I just like my writing-- and the writing that I read-- to be equal parts pithy and lyric. I think that's why I like writers like Joan Didion and Miranda July, who can churn out beautiful lyric prose while still talking about characters who work at peep shows or six-year-olds doing LSD. There's a balance.]
TODAY MARKS THE OFFICIAL two-year anniversary of my marriage to my (truly truly truly) best friend, J. He is the person I can without a doubt see every day and do everything together with and not get sick of him (too much). I can't imagine going through anything we've gone through (or will go through) with anyone else, and I don't want to. He absolutely has his faults and I absolutely do as well, but it absolutely doesn't matter. Simply put, I'm not perfect and he's not perfect, but we're perfect.
On this day two years ago, we got married at Heritage Square Museum in Highland Park, where we spent that St. Patrick's Day in little alternating bouts of rain and sun with our closest family and friends. It was a small, perfect, wet, joyful celebration with so so much help from my friends: our friend Emma photographed our engagement and wedding day, my old UCI pal was our videographer (for free!), our roommate's band was our musical entertainment, my best friend Abby was my wedding coordinator... the list goes on. Everyone helped make it incredibly special and we're both really thankful.
The first year flew by and there really wasn't much change in our relationship as far as feeling "married", since we'd been living together with roommates prior to getting married. But this second year, we started our own little home together in Redlands and now it's more tangible, I think--that concept of marriage. It's a beautiful little white cottage with hardwood floors, and wonderful light, and a little market/cafe on the corner, AND it's just a ten minute walk from downtown. It's finally starting to seem like a real, "grownup" marriage. And I know it's just the beginning, but I really feel like based off these two first years, we've got this down.
We're not huge anniversary celebrators, but this year we were able to scrounge up some money to take a small trip up to Portland! So so excited. We'll be going mid-April, so any travel tips and suggestions are welcomed and appreciated. Today, we'll be checking out the final Miyazaki film and going out to eat some barbecue and donuts (we had some for breakfast already!), which is what we served at our wedding amidst the old LA architecture that served as the background for our wedding.
And here is the list for a mix I made for J for the occasion. He usually makes them since he's a mix master but I owe him one. Take a listen to one of the tracks below! And yes, Fergie is on there.